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Liked: The scenes of Shanghai; the music; the acting by Victoria Song, Wang Yaoqing, and Yang Zhiying; the characters Ye Luming and Wu Yei Min; the friendships between He Fanxing and her buddies and between He Fanxing and Ye Luming; and the way the drama handled the issues with the father. Bonus point: Lots of cute dogs.Did not like: Any of the romances. The age gap in the two primary romances was exacerbated by the immaturity of the younger half of each couple. Relationships between teacher and student always make me uncomfortable but the one here was made worse by how naive and childlike the student was contrasted against a teacher who was depicted as something of a rake. As for the main couple, I found Yuan Song irritating and selfish. It bothered me, for example, when he pursued He Fanxing then “teased” her about sexual harrassment (that's not funny and is pretty passive aggressive); tried to out her without consulting her first (I’d be ticked off if someone had done that to me, too); and most of all, the way he made her grovel at the end. All of the other relationships (including the parents’) were also problematic in one way or another.
I look forward to the inevitable sequel: Find Yourselves Divorce Lawyers.
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Female lead character look tough but she is too naive for director. I wish she became more strict with her decision and did not do any stupid action to couple with another man but at the same time still has lingering feelings for you ex. This is not good and quite distracted for me to continue watch this series.
For the male lead, i think sometimes he is more mature compare to female lead even he is younger. He has nice character and if i'm in his place, i would never take the female lead again because she wants you but scared to take the risks.
Overall is nice drama but too long for me.
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Great story (with the skip button)
Most of what I have to say about this drama has already been said, so I'll just summarize my own thoughts in a few points:-The main couple were AWESOME! They had so much chemistry despite their age gap.
-It's definitely a slice-of-life drama. It was more realistic than other dramas in showing how messy real life and love really are.
-He Fanxing was consistent, though I got very annoyed at her naivety after a while.
-The mom started out bad, but turned good. Mad respect for her character development.
-The characters were loveable and believable. The drama managed to develop their stories without taking the focus away from our beautiful leads.
-Even though he was really annoying, I LOVED Ye Lu Ming! I really respected how he let He Fanxing go in the end, instead of trying to force her to love him or selfishly holding onto her. That was a very mature thing for him to do.
A few things I didn't like:
-The breakup dragged on FOREVER. They put us through ALL that, and they only get back together in the LAST EPISODE???? SERIOUSLY??? Typical rushed ending to a Chinese drama. When I find a Chinese drama that doesn't drag the last 5-10 episodes then rush the ending, I will probably have found the perfect drama. I would've preferred if they'd used the last three episodes to tie everything up instead of doing it in the last episode. I also felt like He Fanxing should've recognized her love for Yuan Song wayyy sooner. I started wondering if she was just stupid after a while.
-It's not that I didn't like Professor He and his girlfriend, but they came off as friends more than lovers, at least to me. It also felt a little contrived, since the whole point of the drama is the age gap between his sister and her boyfriend.
All in all, it's a worthwhile watch if you can get through the draggy bits. But doesn't that describe every Chinese drama that ever existed? I think I'll enjoy it more during a rewatch because I can skip the annoying parts haha
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Liked this more than I thought I would
I haven't watched romcom type dramas in a long time because I couldn't really stand the trend of over the top comedy and honestly a lot of bad acting.The comedy in this is still over the top to me but it wasn't horrible and still quite believable. I loved all the characters including the second male lead. He was pretty creepy for a bit but you can tell he's not a horrible person, just very misguided and selfish. This drama certainly kept me very entertained in how lighthearted and cute they kept it. My hubby who hates reading subs and never willingly agrees to watching romcoms started watching this show with me without any prompting. We both loved Cai Min Min. She is just too adorable and she showed so much character growth by the end of the show.
Culturally I can understand how FL felt so the whole story feels pretty believable. What's less believable is the amount of coincidences in the story. It was also all pretty predictable unfortunately. But for some lighthearted entertainment this really hit the spot!
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First of all, props to Song Weilong and Victoria Song! They have a real 10+ years age gap, but I felt the chemistry. *hot* So much so that I wanted to skip all the epiaodes in the 2nd half that they weren't in. Lol.But the side stories carried their iwn weight, too. I loved how this show portrayed friendships, loyalty, family values, and that life is not all black and white - there are lots of gray areas, and that it's okay.
Finally, it showed what love is like - selfish yet selfless, mindless yet mindful, all-consuming yet liberating. It is not planned, cannot be dictated, sometimes painful and always confusing - but then we wouldn't want it any other way.
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La protagonista, He Fanxing, se empeña en vivir la vida que los demás creen que debe tener e incluso termina lastimando al hombre que ama. No pude sentir empatía por ella porque sus acciones no tenían consideración por los sentimientos de otros. Lo peor es que no tuvo una evolución apropiada, hasta el final toma desiciones abruptas, después de 40 episodios de estar de cabeza dura. No se hizo ningún honor al título del drama.
Aunque el personaje más odioso es Ye Luming, quien es una red flag andante. Se inserta a sí mismo en la vida de Fanxing, manipulando todo para obtener lo que quiere: casarse con ella. En ese triángulo amoroso quien demuestra mayor madurez es el más joven, Yuan Song, aunque tampoco es perfecto.
El arco de Cai Minmin (mi Meloncito adorado) fue el más entretenido y divertido. Hasta su relación me gustó, aunque al inicio estaba reacia por ser alumna/profesor, lo bueno es que se discutió el tema, así como las dinámicas de poder en una pareja, y se resolvió el dilema.
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A Surprisingly Well Written Story
I think I slept on this drama to be honest. I started watching out of boredom but it quickly grabbed me and gobbled me up for three whole days. If you're in your thirties, you'll probably appreciate it more, but I think most women would enjoy this drama.The story is about a woman in a society that seems to have very strict ideas about what you should be doing and when, especially as a woman. Graduate by a certain age, achieve a certain social status, get married, have kids. Every woman in this drama is at a different age and experiencing her own customized version of the story. Our FL is 32 and has never dated, while her brother dates around constantly.
She just wants to experience love and dating, but when her heart jumps for a much younger man, things get interesting.
The ML is very swoony, though the SL is wonderful too. It's a really interesting take on family, society, and a woman's role in both, but never boiling it down to JUST that. Everybody is fun to watch. It's very slice of life, and can be serious one moment and fun the next. I was with the FL all the way (probably because I'm in her age group).
More than that, the story is well written. There are Easter eggs planted everywhere, and none go unaddressed. When the dots connect for you, they pretty much do a big bang version of it.
I would say anybody looking for something light but likeable would really enjoy this.
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I think this drama helps easing the taboo of dating a much older woman. It questions our status quo of today's world where it is totally ok for men to date girls who are 10 years younger, but when it comes to women doing the same with men 10 years younger , it becomes the fault of the women.
The two protagonists did well in bringing out this drame. Would definitely recommend this drama.
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Mediocre Age Gap Love Story
I enjoyed seeing the different types of relationships and love in this drama. People go about love differently, but it works well in their own ways, or they don't. This drama wants to let people know that it's okay if yours is different from someone else's. I appreciated the familial support that the He family gave one another and the strong friendship that He Fan Xin has with her friends. The writers integrated a good amount of screen time with the leads and their relationship with the people around them. However, I was disappointed that this drama wasn't worth the hype (in my opinion). I wanted to give it a lower rating since I found the drama mediocre. But the other relationships, themes, and supporting casts added a lot to the drama to make it a bit more worthwhile.OVERALL STORY RANT (spoilers)
The drama started cutely. We see Yuan Song pursuing Fang Xin and their process of falling in love. Right when we saw that she wanted to keep their relationship a secret, I already knew the headache I was going to experience. I was pretty wrapped in the drama until around ep 12. After that, I finished this drama in like double speed. I understand that this show's point is for them to find themselves, as the title states, "find yourself". Yet, I felt like they never really "found" themselves. They only became a bit more true to their feelings, and that "trial" that led them to speak their feelings wasn't that big of a trial either.
The drama lacked that push to make us feel like they were so in love with each other. When I watched it, I kept asking myself, why did they have to end up together? There were so many red flags that were given to us early in the show on their relationship. They weren't as happy as they thought they would be, and it wasn't even a healthy relationship. So why was Yuan Song so persistent in continuing to fight for Fan Xing? Why did Fan Xiang feel like Yuan Song was the one? Like why was I watching over 40 episodes of just mediocre love?
CAST/CHARACTERS/ACTING
I've seen a few of Victoria Song's works, and I feel like she's always improving. I was really disappointed in how He Fang Xin was written. Even if you're 30 and inexperienced in love, that doesn't mean she shouldn't have good emotional intelligence. We see that Fang Xin cares and communicates well with her co-workers, family members, and friends. So, why is she so stupid with Yuan Song? The only issue is that Fang Xin doesn't know how to express herself well, but Fang Xin still seeks other people's opinions. Because she was so self-conscious (which kind of contradicts her character, as she's supposed to be cold and indifferent), she comes off as selfish with her decisions. If I paused the drama and dissected her character and her issues, I would understand why she feels like she does. Her age, family pressure, society's pressure, etc., were all pressing down on her. However, even in her current situation, the actions that she took rationally don't make sense to me.
I believe I have seen Song Wei Long by trying to start other works from him, but this was my first time sitting through a whole drama with him. I was impressed with the micro-expressions he makes that adds to his acting. Some parts came off kind of awkward to me, but it wasn't too bad.
I was annoyed with Ye Lu Ming and Cai Minmin. Cai Minmin eventually came off as a good character to me, but Esther Yu's acting kind of throws me off. Ye Lu Ming did not come off as a likable character to me. He was so selfish and manipulative that even when he decided to let go of her, I didn't even feel bad. There was no such thing as a second lead syndrome in this drama. His feelings towards her never felt sincere to me.
RE-WATCH VALUE
It was a good one-time watch drama. I don't find that this drama is worth the time for a second or third round of watch, frankly, because the storyline was too simple that we could predict and follow what would happen next.
There's more I'd love to comment on, but to keep this review short, I'll end it here. Comment and ask questions if you'd like, and I'll try to give you answers!
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great drama. will rewatch again ?
I picked up this drama entirely because of Yu Shuxin. I did not regret it at all.However I was not as invested in He Fanxing’s relationship as the side plots…at some point I was hoping she ended up with nobody, but it’s okay I don’t hate the ending or the execution of it, I’m just glad she’s happy. The character developments were wonderful to see especially Cai Minmin’s and He Canyang’s. (somehow this drama made teacher x student relationship ENJOYABLE for me even though most of the time it would gross me out) He Canyang went from the most immature person in his family who fools around with girls, but he grows to actually love Cai Minmin and become more mature overtime, while Cai Minmin learned the healthy way to love someone and became more mature and independent from her family by the ending. I also really liked the cheating husband and unwanted pregnancy sub plot that He Fanxing’s friends have, would definitely rewatch over and over again.
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Excellent writing to ruminate on relationships‼️
I like to think a little bit while I'm being entertained and a drama that fits that bill is "Find Yourself" starring the uber handsome Song Wei Long. "Find Yourself" is not high on the skinship quotient, which is a pity because the Song is absolutely gorgeous to distraction and there are plenty of closeups of his gorgeous self. He and the female lead are quite attractive together and have good chemistry. She's an older woman of 32 dating a younger man of 22 so the potential was there for some affection and flirting but they've written the female lead as too buttoned up to go for it even as her suitor proves that he loves her more than she's willing to love him. But the writing and dialogue are tops in that the various characters talk so much about love, marriage, and dating that it truly provides insights into Chinese culture and thinking that I find thought-provoking.These folks are constantly talking with each other about relationships with their parents, boyfriends, husbands, siblings, etc. People can speak bluntly and truthfully about someone else's situation but less forthrightly about their own. The female lead He Fanxing is close to two college girlfriends and her own twin brother who lives across the hall from the family. The writers largely succeed at getting past the typical stereotypes: the mother and father eschew constantly nagging their children to go on blind dates and get married; one girlfriend is in a long term relationship but doesn't want marriage or children. The other has one child and another on the way and just wants to stay home to raise them but her husband wants her to keep earning money. And He Fanxing still wants to marry for love, not just for practical reasons, despite the unsolicited advice she gets from the other women at her office regarding choices for someone her age.
The first two thirds of the episodes are strongly dialog driven around the central relationship and it's many tributaries while the end seems to be about whether her practical side will win out over her romantic side. You can guess which side I'm on as a fan of this rom-com and its Prince Charming!
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This could almost be a perfect romance for me only if the SML and FL ended up together, and since they didn't (as expected), I wasn't as blown away by this drama as I would be. I was more invested in watching the scenes between Fan Xing and Lu Ming; their banter are so funny and their bond more natural than between Fan Xing and the male lead. There were so many misunderstandings between Yuan Song and Fan Xing, mainly because of Fan Xing constantly putting her foot in her mouth. I get it that she has never been in a relationship before, but she's a grown woman; she should act more mature than the young man she's dating. It was sometimes frustrating to watch the main couple argue over silly things, and it mainly stems from them keeping secrets from each other, not a good basis for a relationship.Despite this, there are a few things I liked about this drama: there are no overbearing mothers, evil stepmoms, or annoying sisters. Even the rivalry between some of the characters were not as intense and hateful as in some other dramas. Healthy competition for the win. I also admired the close-knit relationship of some, for example, between the three best friends who support each other in times of need, or how close Yuan Song is to his stepmom or MinMin to her uncle, or how the work colleagues will go and visit people who are ill. Fan Xing is also close to her brother Canyang, who is sometimes jealous of how their parents treat the siblings differently, but helps his sister anyway. The show's internal monologuing also provided a lot of Fan Xing's self-discovered truths, where she hopefully matures towards the end of the story.
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